Is It Ok For Christians To Get Angry?

When I say angry, I do not mean miffed. Annoyed. Upset. I mean angry. The kind of angry where your face gets hot and steam shoots out of your ears.

I say that it is.

If you have experienced abuse, you can get angry. If you’ve suffered a deep betrayal, you can get angry. You can get angry about anything. To say that you cannot, is to censor your feelings, which are very often justified. Getting angry at Mark Driscoll for leading a church that has been exposed as spiritually abusive towards many people, especially if you are one of many who has been spiritually abused? Justified. Getting angry at all those priests and pastors who have recently been accused of sexual abuse in the state of Minnesota? Justified.

Anger is a lot like grief. In fact, in psychology, it is listed as the second response to grief. People saying all “the right things” does not help. When you experience grief, so many people are there with their two cents: “It’s part of God’s plan. He never gives us more than we handle. I’ll pray for you.” It feels like you are not allowed to rant, you are not allowed to get out that out. If you stay silent, it simmers. It brews. It poisons.

People, Christians included, need to be allowed to get angry, to ask God, “Why?” The entire book of Job is dedicated to one man’s rantings and ravings. His friends try to help, but they just make things worse.

In the end, it’s Job and God. That’s where healing really begins. Anger needs to be healed, just as grief does. And it only happens between an individual and God. People, with all their wise words, their scolding, their attempted empathy, all fade into the background. That’s where anger can turn into something else.

Forgiveness.

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2 thoughts on “Is It Ok For Christians To Get Angry?

  1. I agree with you, that we are allowed to have feelings and that, that it is natural to feel angry, With that said, I’ve heard that we can be angry, but to act on that anger is to sin. Inside we feel, but we can not spew it from us only to hurt others. Also I agree with that some human responses can go a long way as “I am sorry for what you have been through”, but to add the “I will pray for you and your family” can also go a long way. If there is nothing we can do, we pray, and that does more than we could ever do.

    1. Definitely. Anger can provoke sin, for sure, and continuing to fuel anger is a bad idea, too. Feeling angry in response to injustice of some kind is more like “righteous” anger, but even that needs to give way eventually .I agree about what people say being valuable, especially when the person is grieving. It does go a long way for a person to say they’re praying as opposed to not saying anything at all. It’s when they try to explain why something is happening to you that things get murky.

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